Today I saw just how some people view my child. My oldest child was diagnosed with ADHD & Sensory Processing Disorder just prior to her fifth birthday. For the past year & a half we have worked hard to give her the tools she would need to be successful in managing her disorders, including multiple types of therapy & medication. I have taken multiple trainings and try to share with teachers, daycare providers, friends, etc so they can help my daughter navigate the world. I work hard everyday to be the parent she deserves & not squash the amazing spirit that she has.
We were asked today to not bring her back to our daycare due to something that happened last week. My struggle is that even when knowing what we are dealing with, people still sit back & hold her to a standard that she cannot meet with her disorders. She has grown leaps & bounds this past year & has been making a lot of progress but still it is not enough because the standard she is being held to is not one she can meet on her own. And you know what is the worst part? She hears so many people complain about her or discipline her that she has said, “I must just be a bad kid.”
Today I challenge you to take a moment and consider the children that you interact with. Instead of immediately judging them (or their parents) stop & consider WHY they do the things they are doing. Here are some symptoms that a child with ADHD might have:
* Have difficulty sitting still, playing quietly, or relaxing.
* Move around constantly, often running or climbing inappropriately.
* Talk excessively.
* Have a quick temper or “short fuse.”
* Act without thinking.
* Guessing; blurt out answers in class without waiting to be called on or hear the whole question.
* Intrude on other people’s conversations or games.
* Often interrupt others; say the wrong thing at the wrong time.
* Unable to keep powerful emotions in check.
There are POSITIVE things about my sweet girl. She is super smart & extremely creative. She looks at things in new ways which teaches me every day. While it is not always easy I am so grateful that I am blessed to be her mother. I tell her that she might not be perfect, but she is perfect for me!