One of my best friends is having her first baby (a girl) at the end of this month, so we decided it would be fun to throw a shower for her!
My Mom was such a huge help! She made this gorgeous cake and helped with all the delicious food that we served!
It was fun to meet some of Stephanie’s friends that I didn’t know plus it was so great to catch up with our other friends that I haven’t seen in quite some time!
And of course you have to play shower games. We played one where you have to cut a string of yarn and figure out how big Steph’s tummy had gotten! Sierra was right on!
Stephanie received some great gifts. Her friends in Boston all chipped in and bought her a pack and play. She also got a Boppy pillow, some cut outfits, hair bows, booties, sweaters, diaper bag and more.
This is the present I gave Stephanie … and it is something I am quite proud of. I decided recently to try to learn how to crochet since this is a skill that both my mother & grandmother was very talented at. It took some work but I was able to finish this blanket for Stephanie!
A giant thank you to everyone who was able to come! It was such a fun time!
To see the rest of the pics from the shower go here.
Okay so today is the last day of November and I realized that the last time I posted was the first of November so here is a post about my month.
First thing I am officially licensed to be a foster parent and then after a few weeks I was approved by DCSF for placement. This past week I met with my Resource Family Consultant (RFC) whose name is Tara. So now I am just waiting for a phone call saying that they have a placement for me. One thing I learned is that I am not allowed to post any pictures of my little person on any social media (facebook, instagram, twitter, this blog, etc) while they are in the custody of the state, so I may put together an email list to send out updates. If you are interested in receiving these send me an email or message on facebook and let me know.
A few weeks ago John Stockton was in town signing his new book Assisted. For those that do not know who John Stockton is he is a retired NBA player who spent his entire career with the Utah Jazz basketball team. My mom is a HUGE fan of him so when I found out he was doing a signing at the Energy Solutions Arena I wanted to get her the book. So I met my friend Cindy and we waited in line for four hours to meet him and have a book signed for my mom and for Cindy. He was so nice!
Next this is a big deal so I had to share. My oldest fur baby is Annie. She is pretty shy in general and rarely comes out if other people are in the house but over the past five months she has not left the upstairs area. Well this past week she has adventured downstairs and yesterday joined me on the couch when I was having a nap. So nice to have her around again!
I started putting up the Christmas decorations and since this is Moo’s first Christmas she was fascinated by it all. This picture is of her laying on the stairs watching the process. I could tell she wasn’t entirely sure what to think of it all.
Here is a glimpse at my inside and outside decorations. I am so excited to finally have candles in my windows! My mom has had candles in the windows for as long as I can remember and it is one of the things I just loved growing up!
Once the tree was up it didn’t take long for Sammy & Moo to take a nap on the tree skirt. This is always a favorite for my fur babies each year once the tree is up!
Last night Mom and I went to see Frozen at the movie theater. If you know me even a little bit you know that I am a die hard Disney fan. I have been waiting for this film for months and was not at all disappointed! If you have little people or even are a little person at heart … make this a must see! Now I just need to get a copy of the soundtrack!
P.S. Almost forgot this one:
How could I forget! I got hooked on the Hunger Games books/films this month! My friend Ben texted me to invite me to a pre-screening of The Hunger Games: Catching Fire. I accepted and then realized it was the second in a trilogy so I went and got a copy of first film and watched. I had been skeptical about the series due to what I knew of the storyline but the story just really stuck with me. I love the character Katniss and even though she is imperfect as we all are she is a symbol of hope and loyalty and always tries to do the right thing. So we saw the second movie which was FABULOUS and so I ran the next day to the library and got the three books and am almost finished with the first book “The Hunger Games” So if you want to discuss these books/films or want someone to go see Catching Fire with … give me a call!
I have always enjoyed Halloween because I love seeing the kids in their costumes and the excitement and stuff that goes along with it!
This year I dressed up as Rosie The Riveter. I LOVE what Rosie represents … she was the figure used to promote women who left their homes to work while their men were at war during World War II because they wanted to make sure their families were provided for. I have had the poster “We Can Do It” on my wall ever since my mission and keep a post card of it on my desk at work.
It is definitely my favorite day at work because we do trick or treating on our floor for the people who work here to bring in their little people. I am lucky because some of my nieces & nephews usually come and I always love seeing them in their costumes.
Abe was nice enough to bring up five of their kids in their fun costumes! Their family always does a family theme and this year was Greek Gods & Goddesses! Their costumes turned out so well! Mom and Dad were Zeus & Hera (not pictured). Clark (also not pictured) was Poseidon. (L-R) Bethany was Aphrodite, Elinor was Athena, George was Ares, Cannon was Hermes & Faith was Artemis. Their costumes had some fun details that were part of each of their characters. And how gorgeous/handsome they all are!
On Sunday I had invited my little Nursery kids over to go trick or treating when I got off of work because they have been telling me all about their costumes and I wanted to see them. I decided that I wanted something special just for them so I made this “Mummy Juice Boxes”
Here are Liam (the ghost) & Casen (the dragon) looking pretty dang adorable!
I hope everyone had a great & safe holiday!
So last week we had two classes, this time on Attachment/Seperation/Grief/Loss and then Discipline/Effects of a Caregiver.
The seperation class was interesting because they talked about how children at a very early age gain attachment to their primary care giver and how once you take on a foster child you might be surprised at how they attach. They may seem to not care about you or want you there but that they do become attached to you and feel safe and secure in your presence.
And the Discipline one was great. It gave me some ideas of things to try when discipling that can be positive and motivating. The funny thing is I found myself trying them in my nursery class on Sunday when one of my little people were misbehaving.
So I am officially half way done with my licensing classes. This week we covered abuse & neglect and sexual abuse and then development.
The first class on Monday was very emotional for me. I knew it would be difficult but I had no idea just how hard it would be. The first part of the class specifically dealt with abuse in general and neglect. We watched an hour long documentary that was done by PBS where it followed a Human Services office of caseworkers and three of the cases that they were working on. One case dealt with an alcoholic dad who was abusive to his son. Another case was a mom of a teenage daughter & three boys who was accused of not protecting her children from an abuser that was a part of her life. And the last one was a mom in her early twenties who lived in a home that was unsafe (live wires, uncleanliness, etc). Each case showed me just how many ways that parents hurt and neglect their children. And the second half of the class specifically dealt with sexual abuse. Most sexual abuse is done by someone close to the family which makes sense because that is how they gain access to the children. All of the stories that they shared really hit a core with me. I have known four different individuals who were sexually abused and this reminded me of them and once again I ask myself why someone would do this to an innocent child. Only about 2% of the children in foster care are there due to sexual abuse but it is not unusual for Foster parents to discover that the child was abuse prior to coming into their home. How sad.
As hard as Monday’s class was I loved Thursday’s class. This one was on development and showing what was a “typical” age that a child is at in their physical, emotional, social & cognitive development. And then they talked about how abuse can cause delays in children and how to deal with various delays to help a child succeed.
I was impressed with the emphasis our teacher Liz put on every child is good and has smarts or strengths. A child might not do well on a standardized test but that does not mean they aren’t smart. Their smarts have come in different ways due to survival and the situations in their lives. Liz shared this quote which has really stuck with me.
“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”
- Albert Einstein
These classes have been such a great experience and I feel I am learning so much … not just tools to help a little person but also tools to help me learn more about myself and hopefully by learning these things it will help me be a good parent.